What was your past like? Your past could have stemmed from situations such as domestic violence, chemical dependency, or emotional pain that have lingered and impacted your current life. To move from your past, you must know and understand your past, forgive those who have hurt you, and forgive yourself.
Understanding your past includes looking for reasons that you were in the situations. What got you in a domestic violence situation? Maybe you experienced fear that allowed you to stay in the situation longer than you anticipated. What issue or issues you were facing in your past that have contributed to your feelings of loneliness, anger, fear or abandonment today?
Your current feeling of abandonment or loneliness may have resulted from the actions of your parents who had a problem with chemical dependency or by a parent who left the home intermittingly. Now, as a husband or wife who has experienced rejection for the same reason listed above, You find yourself not able to love your spouse. From your past examination, you found out that you have not forgiven yourself.
It is not too late to forgive the person/persons who have hurt you as well as yourself. Simply, go to God in prayer and ask him to forgive you for harboring unforgiveness in your heart against the person/persons who have hurt you. Also, ask God to forgive you for blaming yourself for the mishaps. Matt 6:14 states that if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
I have written this article with the purpose of helping someone who may be suffering from emotional pain and wishes to go to God for relief. I have no background in medicine/ counseling and this article is not a substitute for medical treatment and/or counseling.
Joan M. Blake (Author)