How to Move On from Thinking of Your Past

What was your past like? Your past could have stemmed from situations such as domestic violence, chemical dependency, or emotional pain that have lingered and impacted your current life. To move from your past, you must know and understand your past, forgive those who have hurt you, and forgive yourself.

Understanding your past includes looking for reasons that you were in the situations. What got you in a domestic violence situation? Maybe you experienced fear that allowed you to stay in the situation longer than you anticipated. What issue or issues you were facing in your past that have contributed to your feelings of loneliness, anger, fear  or abandonment today?

Your current feeling of abandonment or loneliness may have resulted from the actions of your parents who had a problem with chemical dependency or by a parent who left the home intermittingly. Now, as a husband or wife who has experienced rejection for the same reason listed above, You find yourself not able to love your spouse. From your past examination, you found out that you have not forgiven yourself.

It is not too late to forgive the person/persons who have hurt you as well as yourself. Simply, go to God in prayer and ask him to forgive you for harboring unforgiveness in your heart against the person/persons who have hurt you. Also, ask God to forgive you for  blaming yourself for the mishaps. Matt 6:14 states that if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.


I have written this article with the purpose of helping someone who may be suffering from emotional pain and wishes to go to God for relief. I have no background in medicine/ counseling and this article is not a substitute for medical treatment and/or counseling.

Joan M. Blake (Author)







Three Reasons for not Having Regrets


Regrets about major life situations can have  negative effects on your current life, particularly when you are making changes and moving in the right direction.

The first negative impact is that you may tend to exhibit inner conflicts depending on what your prior situation was.

Secondly, you may lose focus and feel disconnected, not understanding where God is taking you.

Thirdly, you may forfeit the process of becoming that new “You” that God wants you to become.

I do not know your circumstances, but I urge you to allow God to do His transforming work in you. Be renewed by the spirit of your mind (Ephesians 4:23), discard the old you and your past, and embrace that new person you are about to become (2 Corinthians 5:17).

In Christ,

Joan M. Blake (author)


What to do when your life issues are keeping you down.

I am not a Counselor, but I have mentored quite a few people and I am a person who has had my share of life issues. The question is: “What to do when life issues are keeping you down?”

Let us picture a person who feels down. He/she may feel fearful of the outcome of his/her life. Fear may turn into anxiety and worry, which may tend to turn into depression. When you feel depressed you are submitting to a feeling that may hinder you in many ways. Some people may feel that they can’t go on, so they may decide to stay in bed and do nothing. Depression can lead to over-eating or under eating and can then affect other areas of your life (which are outside the scope of this article).

Before embarking on a feeling which leads to so many issues, think about ways that you can help yourself and others. Here are a some:

1. Pray through the issues. When you pray, you are asking God for strength and you are submitting the issues to him. Didn’t God say to” ‘Come to me all you who are weary and are heavy laden and I will give you rest?’ “(Matt11:28)

2. Read and study God’s word for His words are life {Phil 2:16).

3. Know that you are God’s child and He will never leave or forsake you (Joshua 1:5).


4. Do not concentrate on the issues to the point where they take complete control over your life; concentrate on God and keep your faith alive (Heb11:1).


5.  Involve yourself in Charity work so you can help others. Freely you have received, freely you should give (Matt 10:8) .


6. Take good care of yourself, eat healthy and exercise regularly. Doing so will help your mind and body.


7. Maintain good relationships and have a prayer partner with whom you can pray.


Rise Up


Are you feeling lost, confused, lonely, broken, and can’t seem to find your way out of the struggles of life? You have come to the right place.  I am Joan M. Blake, author, speaker, and spiritual-life coach and I have written a book entitled, Rise Up: How to Overcome Your Battles Utilizing Faith and Belief in God.

Rise up can be used for personal devotions as well as for group study; it is filled with examples of biblical and every-day stories that you can identify with and which show God’s abundant provisions. You would acquire tools to help you on your life-journey; you would receive peace and joy as you understand who you are in Christ; you would be able to maintain freedom at every level of your life and rise  from situations that hinder you from moving forward.

For example, in chapter 3, which is entitled, “Be of good cheer, I have overcome the world,”  hear what the Lord Jesus is saying to you and me today: You are tried by fire, the same way that gold is tried (1 Peter 1:7); A servant is not greater than his Lord (John 13:16); If I have gone through trials, you will too (John 15:20); I died and rose again so that you might have life and have it abundantly( John 10:10 KJV); “Be of good cheer;  I have overcome the world” (John 16:33).


Again, I am Joan M. Blake. Thank you for listening to this podcast.

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Email me at if you are in need of a speaker, spiritual life coaching or prayer. I look forward to working with you. 

Until we meet again,

May God bless and keep you.











Beware of Your Intruder

You may be wondering what is hindering you or your family from moving forward. Have you considered the intruder who resides in your home, job, business or church? The Bible states that the devil comes to steal, kill and destroy you (John 10:10), but Christ came to give you life. Beware of your intruder!

You must be aware of who your intruder is and what he/she is all about. Your intruder, who is your enemy, may operate in silence, and sometimes, it is difficult to discern his/her true character. Therefore, discerning the intruder is important so that you can cast the evil out of your life. Do not live with an intruder. He or she will manipulate or control your life and create a hostile environment that will make it difficult for you to thrive. He/she may be a co-dependent and will use you for what he/she can obtain from you. He/she would pretend to love you to gain your trust. But beware, that is the means that the intruder uses to undermine you.

You may have brought in your own intruders from your past. You cannot live in the past; intruders from your past must be cast out. These include: insecurity, anger, bitterness, un-forgiveness, abandonment and fear. Fear is crippling; it robs you of faith and hope. You cannot have faith and fear. God has not given you a spirit of fear but of power, and of love and of a sound mind (2 Tim.1:7). There is nothing that can separate you from God’s love (Ro.8:39), not even your past. Make up your mind to put the past behind you so you can live an abundant life. It is for this reason that Jesus died and rose again. He is sitting at the right hand of God interceding for you (Ro.8:34). The battle you are fighting is not yours, but His (2 Chronicles 20:15). Cast out the intruder from among you.


Do Not Procrastinate; Fulfill Your Dream

In my previous post, I discussed how my husband and I were in a car accident, how we accidentally came off the highway and landed on a guard-rail. As a result of this accident, I have gone through moments of insecurity, experiencing fear of driving at night, fear driving a rental car and my replacement car. I have not felt the same. I have also had to pray and remember that God was with us on the day of the accident and that He continues to fight our battles. Where do I go from here? I must move to fulfilling my dream by first ridding myself of procrastination and fear.

To do so, I must believe that God was the One who saved my life and I need not entertain fear. David in Psalm 118:6 stated, “The Lord is on my side; I will not fear.” When we fear, we lose faith in ourselves; we lose the ability to live out our dream; and we fail to depend fully on God who loves us, who provides for us, and who gives us strength.

When we fulfill our dream, we positively affect the lives of others. For example, my dream is to reach the lost, those who do not know the Lord Jesus Christ as their personal Savior. When I tell others what Jesus can do for them, they find life, joy, peace, and salvation. Salvation is God’s free gift to anyone who accepts Jesus, God’s Son, the ONE who delivers those from the dominion of darkness and bring them to His light. Jesus is the giver of life (John 14:6) and all one has to do is, receive His free gift of salvation by confessing one’s sins and believing in Him. The harvest is plentiful but the laborers are few (Matthew 9:37). What is your dream? Fulfill it. Do not procrastinate. You will make a difference in this world.

Overcoming Fear of Man

Fear of man is common among individuals. I believe this fear results from feeling insecure about yourself and leads you to anxiety and worry about what others think or say about you, how to please others so they would approve you and not reject you or how to continue living in a co-dependent relationship. Fear of man tends to take root in a person’s life based on how a person has lived in the past or based on his or her current life situation. Unless the root is identified, pulled up and discarded, it will continue to affect all areas in a person’s life. Let us discuss three scenarios of how I believe fear of man may have taken root and how to overcome this.

The first may have resulted from reliving your childhood memories and remembering your mother who tried her best to please everyone in her immediate and extended family and she was never loved or respected for her kindness. Now, you are modeling your mother’s behavior by doing the very thing that your mother did—pleasing others to obtain their approval and falling headlong into a state of fear of man . Fear of man has now taken root, and has affected all aspects of your life, your home, your work place, your friends, and your church family.

The second may have existed due to a trauma that you experience at childhood. This trauma has triggered fear of man in you and it has affected you in your adult life. The Ace study performed by Drs. Felitti and Anda, in 2002, showed that adults who experienced childhood trauma end up having ACE (adverse childhood experiences) or negative effects on their health and well being later in life. People who internalized traumatic experiences tend to have adult illnesses, which I believe, started with fear of man.

The third may include an existing co-dependent relationship with someone where you and that person depend on each other for moral support but the relationship has no relevance; it’s not moving forward and you know in your heart that the relationship should end; yet, you continue to maintain a relationship with that person although it is not in your best interest to do so. You are worried about what that person may think of you or how you are going to survive without his or her involvement in your life. You are experiencing fear of man.

In each of the three scenarios, the root cause is fear of man. How do you overcome this fear? The Bible gives us a way out. The Bible states in Proverbs 29:25 that “Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe.” When you experience fear of man you feel trapped in the cage of your mind unable to think and exercise good judgment. Your only hope is trusting in the Lord who promises to keep you safe. When you trust God, your innermost personality is changed daily and you become that person that God has intended you to be. You never have to rely on the approval of others to know who you are in Christ; instead, trust in the One who died to set you free.