Review Your Life and Make Changes

Have you ever taken an inventory of your life? Without checking in on your own life and being aware of what is happening to you, you can’t make changes. This past weekend, I became aware of the issues I faced and decided that I needed to make changes. I don’t know what issues you are faced with, but today, I will discuss some common issues that we all face, including unforgiveness, guilt and fear, why we need to make changes to our lives, and how to go about making those changes.

Let me begin by discussing u-nforgiveness which is one of the most common issues facing families today. An example of how unforgiveness comes about is when a family member or friend may have said something about you or done something to you that left you unforgiving. You held on to that emotion for years refusing to let it go and it turned into bitterness, hatred, anger, loneliness, possibly jealousy and those emotions became a hedge between your friendship with your family member or friend. You felt prideful and refused to settle your differences with that individual, so you ignore the individual in family gatherings and the situation got worse. I remember times when I dealt with unforgiveness over little things.

A second major issue is feeling guilty. This guilt may have come about because you were unforgiving to someone, did not speak to that individual, and now, you feel guilty about your action. Guilt may have also come about because you felt that you were the cause of your parents’ divorce or separation and you carried that guilt for years and now it has affected your own relationships. My guilt started when my mother and father would ask me which of them, I loved more; I could not answer that question so I was put in a position for years to please others even when I would choke with displeasure. My most recent guilt feeling was attended a function because I didn’t want to hurt the person’s feelings.

A third issue that most people experience is fear which I believe is the root cause of so many life- issues. Fear cripples so many people. I believe un-forgiveness, bitterness, anger, guilt procrastination are prolonged because of fear. People do not want to face others and apologize for having been unforgiving, bitter or guilty. They are afraid of how others will perceive them. People express fears in many ways,  including fear of dying, fear of getting sick, fear of being in financial bondage, fear of flying and fear of driving over bridges. For years I suffered with fear of heights which led to fear of driving over bridges and highways.

Why do we need to make changes to the emotions that we face? The answer to this is clear–we must make changes if we want to move forward and realize success in our lives. People do not know or care if you or I suffer with unforgiveness, anger, bitterness, guilt or fears. We hurt ourselves, our families and friends, when we experience these emotions.

How do we go about making these changes? We must confront our emotions. Choose to love rather than be unforgiving to others. Colossians 3:13 13 states that we are to: “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the LORD forgave you.” Be the first one to step up and make amends. The quality of your relationships will improve. Chose freedom rather than being locked up in the prison of your guilt.

One writer stated that.“The feelings of guilt takes away self-confidence, reduces self-esteem welcomes fear, confusion, disappointment, depression and other areas.” Face your fears and gain calmness and confidence. William Jennings Bryan stated that “The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you.

What to do when your life issues are keeping you down.

I am not a Counselor, but I have mentored quite a few people and I am a person who has had my share of life issues. The question is: “What to do when life issues are keeping you down?”

Let us picture a person who feels down. He/she may feel fearful of the outcome of his/her life. Fear may turn into anxiety and worry, which may tend to turn into depression. When you feel depressed you are submitting to a feeling that may hinder you in many ways. Some people may feel that they can’t go on, so they may decide to stay in bed and do nothing. Depression can lead to over-eating or under eating and can then affect other areas of your life (which are outside the scope of this article).

Before embarking on a feeling which leads to so many issues, think about ways that you can help yourself and others. Here are a some:

1. Pray through the issues. When you pray, you are asking God for strength and you are submitting the issues to him. Didn’t God say to” ‘Come to me all you who are weary and are heavy laden and I will give you rest?’ “(Matt11:28)

2. Read and study God’s word for His words are life {Phil 2:16).

3. Know that you are God’s child and He will never leave or forsake you (Joshua 1:5).

 

4. Do not concentrate on the issues to the point where they take complete control over your life; concentrate on God and keep your faith alive (Heb11:1).

 

5.  Involve yourself in Charity work so you can help others. Freely you have received, freely you should give (Matt 10:8) .

 

6. Take good care of yourself, eat healthy and exercise regularly. Doing so will help your mind and body.

 

7. Maintain good relationships and have a prayer partner with whom you can pray.

 

We Have Victory Through Jesus Christ.

 

We know the story of how the Lord, Jesus, for whom John referred to as the Word (1 John 1:1), came down from heaven as the Son of Man and lived among us, identified with our pain, died, and rose again the third day (1 Cor 15:4) and brought hope (1 Tim 1:1) to a dying world. By His death, Jesus spared us from the wrath of sin (Acts 15:11), and by His resurrection, we have abundant life (John 11:25). He Who descended, also ascended to heaven, and is now seated at the right hand of God, the Father, interceding for us all (Romans 8:34).

This is the same Jesus who said, “I will not leave or forsake you” (Joshua 1:5) and that He would go away and send the Comforter, the Holy Spirit, to be our guide (John 14:16). Apostle Paul reminded us that “all things work together for our good (Rom 8:28).” In other words, regardless of the intensity of our struggles, we must take them to Jesus who has made a promise that He will not forsake us; He will fight our battles (2 Chron 32:8) and cause the situation to work out for our good.  While we are surrounded by a tumultuous world, we must not lose heart, for we have victory through Jesus Christ, our resurrected Lord and Savior.

Would a parent forsake his/her child?

This year 2018, has started out very busy for me, with a lot of doctor’s appointments for my daughter and myself. I felt that I was consumed with going to the doctors, but thanks to God, we are doing well.

Life continues to be hectic, but I refuse to give up, because my family and I belong to God. He knows the end from the beginning and He knows your destiny as well as mine, so I take comfort in knowing and believing that.  God is no respecter of persons; what He has done for you, He will do for me. We are important to God and his love for us is infinite.

I want to encourage you if you are experiencing the storms of life as I am, not to give up, but to hold on to God’s unchanging hands, for what you are experiencing is just a test and you will come out as good gold. God will not leave or forsake you or me, (Joshua 1:5) for we are His children. Would a parent forsake his/her child? In today’s world we are bombarded with evil and so the question to ask ourselves is: “Should a parent forsake his/her child?

 

 

Trust God When You Cannot Trace Him

This is a familiar phrase that my prayer partner would remind me of, as she prayed for me. This means that we should not try to figure out what God is doing in our lives but instead, we should trust God during the process.

We should trust God because God is the author and finisher of our faith (Heb 12:2). He is the Alpha and the Omega (Rev 22:13), the Beginning and the End and knows what each person’s purpose is. God is who opens doors that no man can shut (Rev 3:8). He has numbered the hairs on your head ( Matt 10:30) and knows everything about you and me. Where can you and I go from God’s spirit (Psa 139:7), the Psalmist asks, for nothing is hidden from him. If you and I sin, He knows about it; He knows about our rebellious acts and helps to rid us of these sins.

God allows us to go through challenging times to humble us, to change some aspect of our lives and to bring us to himself. When you are being tested, trust God; don’t try to trace Him or understand where He is going with your lives. Trusting God is the Key to living a life of faith.

 

 

 

 

Christmas Message

THE GIFT OF LOVE-JESUS’ BIRTH

Hello everyone and welcome to another Christmas celebration where family and friends come together not only to share gifts, but to show love for one another. On this day, we commemorate the birth of Jesus Christ, God’s gift to us.

GOD’S REDEMPTIVE PLAN           

The all-knowing and mighty God (Psalm 139:1-4; Isaiah 9:6) allowed his Son, Jesus Christ, the miracle of love, to be born of Mary, a peasant girl who gave birth to him in a manger (Luke 2:4-7). Jesus came into this world to live among people like you and me and to identify with our pain and grief. God’s plan was to redeem the world from sin and death by sacrificing his only Son, Jesus, who died on the cross and was resurrected on the third day; and is now seated on the right hand of the Father, forever making intercession for us (Romans 8:34).

HOW TO OBTAIN THE GIFTS OF SALVATION AND ETERNAL LIFE

When you confess and repent of your sins and accept Jesus Christ as your personal Savior, God forgives you of your current and past sins; you are restored to a rightful relationship with Him through his Son Jesus Christ, regardless of the nature of your sin; and you receive the gift of salvation and eternal life (1 John 1:9).

MY PRAYER FOR YOU

Let me pray for you. Father, I come to you on behalf of this man, this woman, this boy or girl and I ask you to look down with your heart of compassion and help them as they go through the trials of life. Take them out of the miry clay and put their feet on solid ground dear Father in the name of Jesus. Renew their hearts so they can live again, in Jesus’ name, Amen.

  YOUR PRAYERTO RECEIVE THE GIFTS OF SALVATION AND ETERNAL LIFE

Lord, God of the Universe,

Creator of Everything

I come to you in Desperation,

Desiring to have an intimate relationship with You

And to Invite Jesus Christ to be my Lord and Savior.

I confess and repent of my sins

And ask for your forgiveness.

I accept Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior,

The One Who died on the Cross and rose again,

Paying the penalty for my sins,

So I could have salvation and eternal life.

I pray this in Jesus’ name, Amen.

(Prayer taken from Prayer and Meditation Finding Comfort, Hope and Purpose in the Midst of Your Storm, By Joan M. Blake Copyright 2017)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

All Things are Possible to Those who Believe

In the weeks to come, I am going to keep you posted on what is taking place with our daughter Jo-an. I am thrilled to see how far she has come. God gives me the strength to care for her and the faith to expect great things. With Him, all things are possible (Matt 19:26).

Yesterday, my assistant Ali and I took Jo-an for her voice lesson. Remember the angel that I met at Staples? Well, she is amazing at what she does.  Vic plays the piano, plays  other instruments and teaches voice lessons. It was wonderful to hear  Jo-an sing “Amazing Grace.”

This song reminds me that it is by God’s grace that you and I are saved, through faith(Eph 2:8-10). God knew that we needed a Savior, His Son Jesus, to die on the cross to pay our sin debt in full. Grace is a gift from God; it is God’s unconditional love for us-His unmerited favor given to us not because we are deserving of it or because of works we have done.We have been justified by faith and have peace with God and now, we have access to God the Father through His Son Jesus Christ (Romans 5:1-2).

Since we have this access, why are we living below our blessings? Have you been praying for healing for your loved one like I have, or been praying to receive something from the Lord? Apply your faith. Keep believing; keep expecting. The Bible says: Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find, knock and the door will be opened to you (Matt7:7). Remember, all things are possible to those who believe (Mark 9:23).

 

God Sent an Angel to Help My Daughter

About two months ago, I ran into a special lady at Staples store who owns a music school. She explained what the school was all about and we exchanged numbers. Within a month or so, I was calling this angel after deciding that Jo-an will attend her school on Saturdays. At the same time, I had an assistant working with me who will help me to make this possible.

We got lost trying to find the place and arrived there late for our first class, which was free. The owner, who I will refer to as Vic, gave me the paperwork to fill out. On the first class, I was reassured that my daughter Jo-an will be successful because  of Vic’s mannerism, her encouragement, her laughter, her joy and her motivation.Vic was created by God to be a giver, to create in others what God had created in her. She has talent and she knows how to impart it.

This speaks to the fact that everyone can learn when he/she is given the chance to do so and is connected to the right person.  When you and I are faced with the overwhelming tasks of dealing with our special-needs loved one, we must continue to seek help, find an outlet, one that will benefit our son and daughter. Pray and believe  that God will send someone to assist you. God is faithful; He sent an angel to help my daughter.

 

How to Increase Confidence in Difficult Situations

It is so interesting that life goes on regardless of our situations. It has been two decades since our daughter, Jo-an, faced special challenges. Everyone I have spoken to, has asked me about her mental condition. I do not know how a mental state begins but I know that God does not want me to dwell on the unknown. We must look to the future because God has promised a future for each of us.

Whether you are a special-need person or someone who has experienced emotional pain, God can fix it because He knows all about you and He knows where it hurts the most.

My daughter Jo-an is doing quite well. When she gets dressed in the morning, I help her with her makeup and her outfits so she understands the importance of feeling good about herself.  This helps to improve self-esteem, confidence, and self-worthiness. I have seen what a big difference this has made on her life. I also believe in a great diet of chicken or fish with vegetables, a great smoothie to give her strength, and great supplements such as B vitamins and fish oil.

Whatever you do for your special-need loved one, make him/her feel confident and worthy of your love. God loves all of us, so we must extend that love to our loved one.

Trust God Regardless of the Situation You are in

Today, I promise to take our daughter to Church, but the way things are going, it doesn’t seem that I will accomplish this. The enemy is adamant that he wants to keep her in this mental state, but God wants to  set her free.

The state that she is in does not indicate that she will ever be set free. She is not focused on the things of God and she does not always obey instructions. She remains dedicated to the voice in her head. However, I am not concentrating on what I see but what I believe. We must trust God regardless of the situation we are in. Faith is hoping to receive what you have not seen {Hebrews 11:1).